As a single lady, with few close friends and the majority of my wider circle of friends not living in the same city as me, I can easily become a social recluse. (And sometimes that’s exactly what I need). I’m in that ~phase at the moment. I’ve had a few days where I don’t want to see anyone and I don’t want to do anything (I’ve avoided the gym, been eating terribly, sitting in bed and watching TV. I’ve cancelled my plans for tomorrow.) But that’s ok. A few days of just complete nothingness is sometimes needed, and I wish
January January brings with it an abundance of fads and phases, of new mantras and challenges, shouts of ‘new year, new me’ that 2019 will ‘be my year’, the year of changes. There’s even the ’10 year challenge’ and puberty comparisons doing the rounds with various social media flooded with photos of then and now. I understand that a new year seems like a fresh start and so the time to make changes and a time for reflection. For a lot of people that comes in the form of New Year’s Resolutions. Although seeing as most people break these ‘resolutions’
There’s some of you reading this questioning how on earth that could possibly be the case, some might not have ever found January a challenge, but I do. I wrote recently about how loving Christmas makes going back to ‘real life’ in January even tougher. For me it’s tough because there’s such a stark contrast, it’s like living two lives. I get the full 2 weeks off at Christmas and travel several hours away to spend the whole time at my parents. I don’t have to do any work and I have no responsibilities. There’s freezers and cupboards fully stocked
Being single can be challenging, but no-one ever talks about how financially difficult being single can be. Did you realise there was a financial cost? As a society we don’t often discuss finances. We’re great at sharing good deals and our most recent bargains, how often have you heard “I like your jumper/shoes/dress’, with the response ‘it only cost £10/15/20’? But we don’t discuss the money that matters. No-one talks about how much they earn or how much they save. No-one really talks about how much money they’re spending or what they spend it on.
I have been single my whole life. It’s just another one of those facts about me, but it also makes up a large part of my identity. Most of the time I’m content with it, but for a long time I felt like the only one whose always been single (I’ve written about my singleness here: Single Is All I Know). Then I started this blog. I’ve had so many people reach out to me telling me that they too have only ever been single, or are long term single. Many of these people were also in their 20s or
Having recently taken the dive into solo travel I’d like to help you take the plunge too! Here are my top tricks and tips to make sure you feel confident and safe when planning your solo holiday. Choosing your destination Location is key. Especially for your first adventure into solo travel. Motivate yourself. Choose a destination that you really want to visit, somewhere you’ve always dreamed of travelling to. Even if you’d never pictured yourself going there solo, you’ve still imagined yourself visiting this destination and that will help to motivate you to plan your trip there. The more you want
We so often hear encouragements telling us we can do anything we want to do if we set our minds to it or that we should ‘chase our dreams’. Well what if you don’t have any? For the last few years I have very much felt like I don’t know where I’m going. There’s no big goal or dream, I’m just taking life one day at a time. And I struggle with that lack of direction. But I keep going. Sometimes it can feel like you’re the only one who doesn’t know where they’re heading, but I’m pretty sure that’s
All the women who are independent (throw your hands up at me). Being a 90s kid I very much wanted to channel my inner Destiny’s Child and be an ‘Independent Woman’. (And yes I am now singing along to it, it’s a classic). And I think I have succeeded in that. Although I now worry that I am too independent that I actually struggle to allow people into my life… When you’re permanently single, you absolutely have to learn to be self sufficient and to become independent. Leaving home for University was the first time I had to be truly
In creating this blog and interacting with other singles I have identified two significant groups of single people. Those who have several other single friends to share the journey with, and those who are much more alone. I would definitely place myself in the second category.
Over the last few years I have pushed myself to be braver and do more things. One of them has been travelling. This is my story of going from travelling for the very first time aged 23 to becoming a solo traveller by the age of 26. Here are my adventures in solo travel as a single girl.