Tag Archives: friendship

The importance of making plans when you’re single (and sometimes cancelling them)

The importance of making plans when you’re single (and sometimes cancelling them)

As a single lady, with few close friends and the majority of my wider circle of friends not living in the same city as me, I can easily become a social recluse. (And sometimes that’s exactly what I need). I’m in that ~phase at the moment. I’ve had a few days where I don’t want to see anyone and I don’t want to do anything (I’ve avoided the gym, been eating terribly, sitting in bed and watching TV. I’ve cancelled my plans for tomorrow.) But that’s ok. A few days of just complete nothingness is sometimes needed, and I wish

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We intervene too late. How we should really be supporting others (World Mental Health Day 2018)

We intervene too late. How we should really be supporting others (World Mental Health Day 2018)

Trigger warning. This post discusses mental health, depression and suicide. Please do not continue to read if these topics may be triggers. I am a firm believer that as a society we fail to tackle many issues adequately due to only dealing with the problem as it arises and not the many smaller things leading up to it. It’s like using painkillers, only ever treating the surface pain not the cause of the problem that continues to worsen. I see it as a teacher. For example, we try to tackle behavioural issues as they occur not the things that may

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Being Independent: Living my best single life

Being Independent: Living my best single life

All the women who are independent (throw your hands up at me). Being a 90s kid I very much wanted to channel my inner Destiny’s Child and be an ‘Independent Woman’. (And yes I am now singing along to it, it’s a classic). And I think I have succeeded in that. Although I now worry that I am too independent that I actually struggle to allow people into my life… When you’re permanently single, you absolutely have to learn to be self sufficient and to become independent. Leaving home for University was the first time I had to be truly

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Supporting singletons, but not in the way you think.

Supporting singletons, but not in the way you think.

As a permanently single individual I experience the World in a slightly different way to others. Some differences are obvious and expected. Others are probably unknown to the majority. But those differences exist regardless and sometimes that leaves us needing more support than you think, even for us strong independent women (yes I’m referencing Destiny’s Child). In life it is very easy for us to take things for granted. I know there are so many things I don’t appreciate enough. I think that individuals in a relationship take things for granted that singles don’t have, and I mean way beyond

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