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What do you want to do with your life? I don’t know, so please stop asking.

What do you want to do with your life? I don’t know, so please stop asking.

We so often hear encouragements telling us we can do anything we want to do if we set our minds to it or that we should ‘chase our dreams’. Well what if you don’t have any? For the last few years I have very much felt like I don’t know where I’m going. There’s no big goal or dream, I’m just taking life one day at a time. And I struggle with that lack of direction. But I keep going. Sometimes it can feel like you’re the only one who doesn’t know where they’re heading, but I’m pretty sure that’s

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We intervene too late. How we should really be supporting others (World Mental Health Day 2018)

We intervene too late. How we should really be supporting others (World Mental Health Day 2018)

Trigger warning. This post discusses mental health, depression and suicide. Please do not continue to read if these topics may be triggers. I am a firm believer that as a society we fail to tackle many issues adequately due to only dealing with the problem as it arises and not the many smaller things leading up to it. It’s like using painkillers, only ever treating the surface pain not the cause of the problem that continues to worsen. I see it as a teacher. For example, we try to tackle behavioural issues as they occur not the things that may

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Being Independent: Living my best single life

Being Independent: Living my best single life

All the women who are independent (throw your hands up at me). Being a 90s kid I very much wanted to channel my inner Destiny’s Child and be an ‘Independent Woman’. (And yes I am now singing along to it, it’s a classic). And I think I have succeeded in that. Although I now worry that I am too independent that I actually struggle to allow people into my life… When you’re permanently single, you absolutely have to learn to be self sufficient and to become independent. Leaving home for University was the first time I had to be truly

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When you’re the only single one

When you’re the only single one

In creating this blog and interacting with other singles I have identified two significant groups of single people. Those who have several other single friends to share the journey with, and those who are much more alone. I would definitely place myself in the second category.

Supporting singletons, but not in the way you think.

Supporting singletons, but not in the way you think.

As a permanently single individual I experience the World in a slightly different way to others. Some differences are obvious and expected. Others are probably unknown to the majority. But those differences exist regardless and sometimes that leaves us needing more support than you think, even for us strong independent women (yes I’m referencing Destiny’s Child). In life it is very easy for us to take things for granted. I know there are so many things I don’t appreciate enough. I think that individuals in a relationship take things for granted that singles don’t have, and I mean way beyond

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“Do you have a boyfriend yet?”: Why being single gets tougher the longer it lasts for

“Do you have a boyfriend yet?”: Why being single gets tougher the longer it lasts for

Being single gets tougher the longer it lasts for. But it gets easier too, you get more used to it, it has become normality. But that’s what makes it difficult. All I’ve ever known is being single, and I’ve become pretty great at it if I do say so myself! But if I were to meet someone, would I even be able to not be single? As I’ve become older, and a relationship seems ever more elusive, I wonder if I could actually be in one. I have become so independent, so entirely used to doing things my way and

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Single is all I know

Single is all I know

I am 26. I am single. I have always been single. I don’t mean that in a ‘it feels like I’m always single’ sort of way, it’s just a fact about me. Just like the fact that the Earth rotates around the sun, I have always been single. To clarify, for those wondering, it really is what it sounds; no relationships, no dates, no romantic involvements, ever. For me being single just IS, there is no why or how, only is. Just like my height or age- it just IS, like my favourite TV shows or music, like who my friends

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