January January brings with it an abundance of fads and phases, of new mantras and challenges, shouts of ‘new year, new me’ that 2019 will ‘be my year’, the year of changes. There’s even the ’10 year challenge’ and puberty comparisons doing the rounds with various social media flooded with photos of then and now. I understand that a new year seems like a fresh start and so the time to make changes and a time for reflection. For a lot of people that comes in the form of New Year’s Resolutions. Although seeing as most people break these ‘resolutions’
Being single can be challenging, but no-one ever talks about how financially difficult being single can be. Did you realise there was a financial cost? As a society we don’t often discuss finances. We’re great at sharing good deals and our most recent bargains, how often have you heard “I like your jumper/shoes/dress’, with the response ‘it only cost £10/15/20’? But we don’t discuss the money that matters. No-one talks about how much they earn or how much they save. No-one really talks about how much money they’re spending or what they spend it on.
I have been single my whole life. It’s just another one of those facts about me, but it also makes up a large part of my identity. Most of the time I’m content with it, but for a long time I felt like the only one whose always been single (I’ve written about my singleness here: Single Is All I Know). Then I started this blog. I’ve had so many people reach out to me telling me that they too have only ever been single, or are long term single. Many of these people were also in their 20s or
Trigger warning. This post discusses mental health, depression and suicide. Please do not continue to read if these topics may be triggers. I am a firm believer that as a society we fail to tackle many issues adequately due to only dealing with the problem as it arises and not the many smaller things leading up to it. It’s like using painkillers, only ever treating the surface pain not the cause of the problem that continues to worsen. I see it as a teacher. For example, we try to tackle behavioural issues as they occur not the things that may
All the women who are independent (throw your hands up at me). Being a 90s kid I very much wanted to channel my inner Destiny’s Child and be an ‘Independent Woman’. (And yes I am now singing along to it, it’s a classic). And I think I have succeeded in that. Although I now worry that I am too independent that I actually struggle to allow people into my life… When you’re permanently single, you absolutely have to learn to be self sufficient and to become independent. Leaving home for University was the first time I had to be truly
In creating this blog and interacting with other singles I have identified two significant groups of single people. Those who have several other single friends to share the journey with, and those who are much more alone. I would definitely place myself in the second category.
As a permanently single individual I experience the World in a slightly different way to others. Some differences are obvious and expected. Others are probably unknown to the majority. But those differences exist regardless and sometimes that leaves us needing more support than you think, even for us strong independent women (yes I’m referencing Destiny’s Child). In life it is very easy for us to take things for granted. I know there are so many things I don’t appreciate enough. I think that individuals in a relationship take things for granted that singles don’t have, and I mean way beyond
Being single gets tougher the longer it lasts for. But it gets easier too, you get more used to it, it has become normality. But that’s what makes it difficult. All I’ve ever known is being single, and I’ve become pretty great at it if I do say so myself! But if I were to meet someone, would I even be able to not be single? As I’ve become older, and a relationship seems ever more elusive, I wonder if I could actually be in one. I have become so independent, so entirely used to doing things my way and
I am 26. I am single. I have always been single. I don’t mean that in a ‘it feels like I’m always single’ sort of way, it’s just a fact about me. Just like the fact that the Earth rotates around the sun, I have always been single. To clarify, for those wondering, it really is what it sounds; no relationships, no dates, no romantic involvements, ever. For me being single just IS, there is no why or how, only is. Just like my height or age- it just IS, like my favourite TV shows or music, like who my friends